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Relationship Crisis
By Dr. Robert Huizenga, Sat Dec 10th
Relationship crises (break-up, affair, huge conflict, childrenproblems) demand tremendous energy and often throw our lives offa healthy track - which further perpetuates our inability torespond in a healthy way to the crisis. Don't forget your body while you wrestle with a relationship ormarital crisis. It is easy to let yourself go. It is easy to postpone - I willstart tomorrow - your walking, running or workout. Yourpreoccupation with the other person floods your life, leavinglittle room for anything else. Or, you find yourself sooverwrought that it seems impossible to "talk yourself" intogetting started.
But, exercise and nutrition are powerful tools to help yourselfat this point. Here are 6 reasons why: 1. Exercise and attention to your nutrition shift your focus toyou. Exclusive focus on the other person atrophies your spirit,your energy, productivity, your healthy emotions and your body.You fade. You diminish. You become less than you truly are. Somuch of my work with others is helping them begin to think aboutthemselves and take action for themselves. This is a major move.And it can begin by focusing on your body. It is the best, mostpractical place to begin. Your body is basic. It is a huge partof you. Begin paying attention to it. 2. Focusing on the body, using it, stimulating it, making itstretch and sweat is a great way to reduce stress. I'm not anexpert here, but I understand it kicks in healthy body chemicalsand cleanses some of the toxins - calming your mind, heart andsoul. 3. Your confidence grows as you begin to manage your body andsee changes in its endurance, strength and beauty. You begin tothink better thoughts about yourself. Self-care can result in aminor miracle in terms of your perception of yourself. 4. You will begin to think of yourself as more desirable andsexy.
Your sense of sexiness may be at risk. It may be on theline. It may be called into question. Doubts abound. It is acomplicated and powerful issue in our culture. (Watch a fewcommercials on TV.) Exercise and physical health cuts throughthe doubts. Being physically healthy is sexy. You feel moresexual and you become more desirable. 5. Physical is one of the first steps to becoming highlyattractive and exerting your personal power. Once you believeand act attractive, the power of the relationship or maritalcrisis will lessen in your life. It actually might seem ratherjuvenile. Yes, there is more to attractiveness than lookinggreat. But, we begin by honing our body, working it and caringfor it. This builds the foundation for other forms ofattractiveness and personal power. 6. You assume control. You may feel, as a result of therelationship crisis in your life, that you have little controlor influence. It seems to become a waiting game. You wait forthe other person. This other person or the situation seeminglydictates your every move and thought. You feel paralyzed. Whenyou begin to move your body, you take control. Getting on agreat exercise, program makes you the master of thatpart of your life. You are in control. That feels good. That isgood. Beginning an exercise/fitness program in the midst of arelationship crisis is easier said than done. Usually we needsupport, encouragement or some sort of structure to get usmoving. We have good intentions, but the follow through islacking. You have no further to look than online. There are great siteson the web that help you get started, offer encouragement andresources and keep you motivated and on track. Take advantage ofthese resources. About the author:Dr. Robert Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach, has helped hundredsof couples over the past two decades heal from the agony ofextramarital affairs and survive infidelity. Visit his websiteat: http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com
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